The Definition of Failure
It’s almost impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of failure. But, the wonderful thing about failure is that it’s entirely up to us to decide how to look at it.

We can choose to see failure as “the end of the world,” or as proof of just how inadequate we are. Or, we can look at failure as the incredible learning experience that it often is. Every time we fail at something, we can choose to look for the lesson we’re meant to learn. These lessons are very important; they’re how we grow, and how we keep from making that same mistake again. Failures stop us only if we let them.

Fear of failure also known as atychiphobia. Phobias are irrational fears related to specific objects or situations. If you experience atychiphobia, you have an irrational and persistent fear of failure.

Fear of Failure causes them to unconsciously sabotage their chances of success, in a variety of ways. Fear of failure can elicit feelings such as disappointment, anger, frustration, sadness, and regret. A fear of failure is essentially a fear of shame.

Symptoms of Atychiphobia: 
Not everyone will experience fear in the same way. The severity runs along a spectrum from mild to extreme. Phobias like atychiphobia can be so extreme that they completely paralyze you, making it difficult to carry on with your tasks at home, school, or work. You may even miss out on important opportunities in your life, both personally and professionally.

Examples of Physical symptoms
– Lack of Energy, lack of focus.
– Unusually fast heart rate, pain in your chest, shaking, dizziness or lightheadedness.
– Digestive Distress.
– Overthinking
– Hot or Cold Flashes.
– Insomnia (sleep problems). Especially for a test.
– Sweating. Especially for a presentation.

Examples of Emotional symptoms
– Constantly an intense overwhelming feeling.
– Feeling like you’ve lost control over a situation.
– Generally feeling powerless over your fear signs that you are having.
– Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed.
– You tend to tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations.
– Feeling shy
– Low self esteem
– Lie, make excuses

What causes fair of failure:
Lack of confidence
Those with low self-confidence will believe in perfectionism. They think that unless they succeed in the task at hand, they will be a failure. Although they fail, they are not a failure, most of us know that, but, to them, this is just a fact.

Perfectionism
Those who fear failure often believe that they and the things they are interested in are supposed to be perfect. The truth is, nothing is entirely perfect no matter how hard you try to be successful in your endeavors.

Personalization
Some people see failure as a testament to who they are. When they fail to complete a task in the right way or in perfect timing, they see fault in themselves. These individuals truly do not feel good enough about themselves to attempt a new task or take any risks.

The perfectionism of others
Although some of us are victims of perfectionism in our personalities, there are others who impose their perfectionism on us too. Some people expect us to be perfect and so we work hard to meet these expectations. This can happen so much that we do feel that we are doomed to fail.

Childhood issues
Maybe you are always afraid that if you fail, there will be punishments from parents. You even brace yourself for the fail long before you actually know the outcome.

Taking a closer look at childhood issues presents us with patterns. The first punishment was probably shocking to the child, but after a while, it became a normal part of life. As an adult, fear became a normal part of life as well.

Advice for parents:
Change your attitude about failing. Stay always positive. 
Emphasize effort, Not ability.
Demonstrate unconditional love.
Conduct the “Worst-Case Scenario” exercise.
Help them focus on the solution.
Have conversations about success and failure.