Explore common truths and misunderstandings about therapy, how it really works, and how it helps you understand yourself and improve your relationships.
What No One Tells You About Therapy
What really happens when you decide to see a psychologist or therapist? Here are some common truths and misconceptions about therapy, especially helpful for those in Vietnam or across Asia, where many stigmas still exist about seeking help from a stranger.
Therapy is Not Mind Reading
Truth 1: Therapy does not read your mind.
Your therapist only knows what you share. They are not trying to manipulate you; they want you to feel better. Over time, the therapist will understand your values, decision-making, and how these choices affect your relationships.
Your Therapist is Real (and Flawed)
Truth 2: Therapists are human, authentic, and sometimes make mistakes.
They do not hide behind degrees or credentials. A good therapist will say, “I don’t know” or “Let me think about this.” Your relationship is a professional partnership, not a romantic or transactional connection.
Therapy Does Not Eliminate All Problems
Truth 3: Therapy is not magic.
Therapists help you understand your problems, how you manage them, and provide tools and skills to improve. As Freud said, “The best possible outcome of therapy is normal human suffering.”
Therapy is a Living Process
- Therapy should feel alive: Sessions often evoke strong emotions and insights.
- Therapy is not easy: You must confront difficult feelings and practice new skills.
Therapy is paradoxical: To change, you must accept yourself, and to overcome pain, you must face it. Carl Rogers said: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, I can change.”
Mr. Oleskevich – Heroes Journey
