I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Psychotherapist, a relationship cyclebreaker, intimacy alchemist, and trauma expert with over three decades of experience helping couples move from disconnection into safety, intimacy, and lasting love. I have spent my life sitting in the fire with people, helping them uncover the hidden body contracts that quietly drive their relationships and guiding them back into the kind of repair that makes love possible again. My devotion is to the threshold, the place where the body finally releases what it could not before, and love begins to land.
My work goes far beneath the surface. Most of the struggles couples face are not happening in their minds but in the deeper places where their bodies were coded and trapped by overwhelming experiences. I help people regulate, resource, and liberate those imprints so they can cross into a new now. This is not theory. It is lived practice, felt at the intersection of the nervous system and the soul. When safety is restored here, intimacy stops being dangerous and becomes real.
I have created and led many programs to support this transformation, including The Regulated and Resourced Relationship Experience, The Couples Trauma Threshold, The Marriage & Relationship Blueprint, The Intimacy Pearl Portal, and The Intimacy Alchemy Accelerator. I am also launching The Soulmate Studio, a monthly membership school where couples and individuals in relationship can practice rather than only intellectualize, what it truly takes to create love that is embodied, connected, fun, and effective. These containers have supported couples through near-divorce, betrayal, shutdown, and silence, helping them find not just survival, but the possibility of joy, connection, and lasting intimacy.
My path began in the Bay Area, where I worked with students, families, and adults living with immense challenges such as substance abuse, depression, intimacy struggles, HIV, and trauma. I trained and served in schools, counseling centers, and community programs; facilitated groups for the severely ill; mentored women in spiritual retreat; guided meditation; and sat in the raw honesty of grief and resilience. Those years forged my understanding that safety is not optional in love, it is oxygen.
I earned my license after completing a rigorous written and oral examination process and more than 3,000 hours of face-to-face client work at licensure alone. Today, I have accumulated over 37,000 hours of direct client contact. I hold a Master of Arts in Integral Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies and a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from San Francisco State University. I have advanced training in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, EMDR Trauma Therapy, Imago Therapy, and many other modalities that support deep repair at the nervous system and soul level. I have also been a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and the Northern California Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples.
I bring all of this, the fire, the tenderness, the training, and the lived devotion into every retreat, immersion, and mentorship I lead. My work is not just about saving relationships. It is about liberating love itself.
Areas of Specialization
• Nervous system dysregulation
• Early and developmental trauma
• Pre-verbal and attachment-based trauma
• Chronic stress and burnout
• High-functioning anxiety
• Emotional shutdown or numbness
• Hypervigilance and constant self-monitoring
• Trauma held in the body despite insight or therapy
• Somatic integration after talk therapy or coaching
Specific Issues Addressed
• Feeling constantly tense, braced, or on edge without knowing why
• Anxiety that persists even when life is objectively stable
• Emotional reactions that feel automatic or out of proportion
• Difficulty relaxing, resting, or “letting down”
• Chronic over-functioning and internal pressure
• Feeling disconnected from sensation, pleasure, or aliveness
• Emotional containment that turns into numbness or exhaustion
• Stress responses rooted in early childhood experiences
• Repeating survival patterns that logic and mindset work haven’t changed
• A sense of being safe intellectually but not in the body
Who This Work Is For
• Highly capable, intelligent adults who appear functional on the outside
• Individuals who have done years of therapy, coaching, or spiritual work
• People who understand their patterns but still feel them physically
• Leaders and high-responsibility individuals under sustained pressure
• Those seeking embodied change rather than insight alone
Approach
• Body-based and trauma-informed
• Works directly with the nervous system rather than stories or analysis
• Does not require reliving trauma or emotional flooding
• Focuses on resolving stored survival responses
• Builds internal safety, regulation, and resilience at a physiological level
Results Clients Report
• Reduced anxiety and chronic stress
• Greater internal calm and emotional stability
• Less reactivity and shutdown
• Increased capacity and grounded presence
• A sustained felt sense of safety in the body
